Michael Bolton sings,
When a man loves a woman,
He'd trade the world,
For a good thing he's found
But, no one is singing about when a woman loves a man...How she would turn her whole life around...
People often say that love, and relationships require 'compromise' ... and it is always unofficially and silently insinuated that the woman will be the one compromising...
And it got me thinking...
When a woman loves a man, she inherently compromises on her own being...she no longer belongs to herself, but to 'him'... I am not sure if it is society, novels, movies or media in general that has ingrained this notion and definition in every love-stricken girl...but wanting to 'belong to him', to be 'his' is what we all dreamed of at one point of our lives...and damn does it make you want to scream for joy when he utters those three almost lethal words 'you are mine' ...
But what does that say about me? about every girl that was someone's 'belonging'? A part of me sees the romance in this self centred possessive love...a part of me relates...a part of me also wants to belong to feel 'complete'...
But on the other hand...another part of me is repulsed by the idea that I belong to a man...that a man thinks my being, my love, my feelings are part of his life inheritance...a part of me wants to scream and say 'go to hell you misogynist' ...
And here I am stuck...between, well, me, myself and I...
Not knowing which side I should be on...
My brain says NO, but my heart says YES
My brain says, you are complete, you belong to yourself, you do not need a man to complete you...
My heart says, ohhh, how romantic...how sexy that he wants me to be his...
And here I am, stuck again...between me, myself and I...
And, it got me thinking again...
In an effort to please my heart, my brain compromises... and in an effort to please my brain, my heart compromises... and where do I stand? No neutral ground on this one...but if anything...when a woman loves a man...she un loves what she loves for him, and learns to love what he hates for him... Hell she even adopts his culture and changes her religion for him...
So when a woman truly loves a man. .. she not only compromises, but she looses both, her heart and her brain to 'him'...
